The Secret to Relaxed Parenting!
For this week’s Friday Club Parenting Carnival Ella at Notes from Home has asked for simple parenting tips.
My tip is the simplest of all but not always the easiest to do. We all know it works but making ourselves do it is an entirely other matter.
Relaxed parenting relies upon this virtue more than any other and it is the one which reaps the richest rewards!
Bonus Boy was born in water but is now very reluctant to go underneath it which is holding back his swimming. I have seen so many parents at swimming lessons getting themselves in flap, worrying that their child won’t learn to swim and passing on this worry to the child in question.
There have been occasions with Bonus Boy when I have wanted to just give him a little push, or splash him mercilessly but I know he will dig his heels in and refuse if I try those tactics so I have waited patiently. He has to want to do it, without pressure to perform. I have gently encouraged tiny little steps in the right direction, rewarded him when he has achieved a step forwards.
Two weeks ago he dipped his ears in the water and blew bubbles on the surface. Every bit of his face went underwater VERY briefly. I bought him the water toys I had promised him if he did this! I made sure I didn’t promise them before I thought he was ready to do it because I didn’t want him to feel he had ‘failed’. He set himself the challenge and he achieved it. He was over the moon!
At bathtime on Sunday, he was at it again!
Ears right under, listening to the water going down the plughole and very, very pleased with himself! He can’t wait until his next swimming lesson and neither can I!
What’s your top parenting tip?
Here are the other entries in this parenting tips carnival:
Nova at Cherished by Me shares her tips in Encouraging Children to Read.
Gemma at HelloitsGemma’s Blog gives us her working mum tips in This working Mummy’s guide to life.
Maggy at Red Ted Art shows us how Baby Can Draw!
Cass at The Diary of a Frugal Family shows us how she teaches her children about other countries and cultures whilst having fun in America Day.
Helen at Cheeky Wipes gives us her tips in Fussy Eating.
Mummy Beadzoid gives us some Parenting tips for the NICU/SCBU parent.
Kelly at Domestic Goddesque shares her advice in Terrible Twos: tips for dealing with tantrums?
Ella at Notes From Home gives us her tip for encouraging children to tidy up at the end of the day.
Tiddlyompompom shares her weaning tips in her oh so helpful guide to weaning.
Mymumdom shares her tips in Parenting Tips (Me Over The Edge).
SouthoftheRiverMum tells us her plans to set up a Reward System at Home.
Not so single mum at Diary of a Not So Single Mum shares her advice on doing what you feel is best for your child and your family.
Jax at Making It Up discusses behavioural issues in a quandary in search of a tip.
Bod for Tea shares her advice on finding a ‘helper’ to encourage your child to do things they don’t really like doing in Bunny says.
Hayley at Simply Hayley tells us about Hugs and Love.
Make Do Mum shares her stickability scale in Know Your Enemy.
Blue Sky at Looking for Blue Sky gives us some teenage tips.